This weekend for couples is an opportunity to enter deeply into the experience of being present together. This experience of being fully, unconditionally present is love's best medicine. It creates a spaciousness that is ample and open enough to hold the whole, human truth of who we both are--our beauty and our embarrassment, our courage and our cowardice, our failings and our capacity for forgiveness, as well as all our uniquely sweet ways of giving and receiving love. Being present also makes it possible to find each other again and to renew our love, free from past happenings and future possibilities. This is the moment, the only moment, when we can truly meet--here in the exquisite preciousness and poignancy of the present, where never before meets never again. Finally, being present enables change to happen on its own, naturally, without contrivance. We don't need to try to change ourselves, each other, or the relationship because, in the present, change is always, already happening, if we dare experience it.
"In this workshop, we'll share the heart of what we have learned about
being and staying together from our own experience. We'll share several
of the unique and elegantly simple exercises that we use to practice being
present with each other. When practiced over time, these exercises cultivate
a profound sense of connectedness. The workshop, much of which will be
spent with partners, involves lots of humor, music and movement, as well
as talk, demonstrations, and group sharing. Our aim is to create a safe
haven for you to renew, deepen, and celebrate your love. The workshop is
open to all couples--young or old, married or unmarried, straight or gay--who
are eager to learn more about the intimate art of being present together.
We invite you to join us for this Valentine's weekend." Couples receive
a 10% discount.
Antra Borofsky and Richard Borofsky have been a couple for 30 years and they're founders and directors of the Center for the Study of Relationship in Cambridge. Antra's been a Gestalt Therapist and Marriage and Family therapist for 25 years and Richard's been a clinical psychologist in private practice for 28 years. He was co-director of the Boston Gestalt Institute for two decades and currently is an instructor at Harvard Medical School. They're contributing authors to On Intimate Ground: A Gestalt Approach to Working with Couples and in 1995 they were given the Best of Boston award by Boston Magazine for their work with couples. Their special gift is their ability to embody and model what they're teaching. Their daughter. Larissa, loves Rowe Camp.From love we learn to release our restless, constant longing for more and to revel in the blessedness of things as they are. From love we learn to heal our losses and our fears of loss. Love awakens us. It shows us the truth about ourselves and gives us the courage to live this truth. Love sustains us; it is our quintessential nourishment. And love connects us to others, to ourselves, and to the source of all being. Love is our teacher, and we are love's apprentices. -- Antra and Richard Borofsky
For one human being to love one another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation...So we must not forget, when we love, that we are beginners, bunglers of life, apprentices in love and must learn love; and like all learning, this needs peace, patience, and composure. -- Ranier Maria Rilke